How to approach other American kids?

Mybaby

呵呵，你所在是什么州？ 看来美国法律如何解释虐待儿童也是有很多空间的，你们这个天主教为主的州，打儿童就不是虐待儿童，和我们中国的文化差不多唉！
爱无言 发表于 2010-6-30 23:35

That is why I feel human are same all over the world. You just see part of the truth. Part of the truth is not truth.

Mybaby

在美国，邻居不报警吗？
爱无言 发表于 2010-6-30 14:31 [/quote]

You are very naive.

They may call police if they really hate you. One of my friends actually abuse his son, not spanking, yes abuse. He kick him like kick a ball. Lots of people know it. Nobody will call police for the boy's sake. If somebody reports the abuse, the boy will be taken away from his parents and put in foster family. The boy's life will be ruined forever. 90% foster family are not decent family. What the boy will face is not only kicking.  The US government will pay foster family 300$ per month for one kid. There is no love, no care, maybe still abuse. Social workers will go to foster family to check once a while, not often. What you think they can find out? Nothing. This is just routine work. Sometimes even if the social workers sense something, they may open one eye and close the other if not too obvious. Life is not what you see in movies. people may not be what they appear to be.

Mybaby

"他们不打脸，不拧耳朵，主要打屁股"

These are mentioned in the church program too. They said the parents should spank the part covered by the clothes. In that way, the child dignity won't be damaged.

Mybaby

呵呵，谢谢你告诉我你看到的美国。看来你对这个国家好像很失望？
爱无言 发表于 2010-7-1 14:12

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They have both sides. You know lots of good side. There is no need for me to tell you.

Disappointed for US? Why? US is not my motherland. I am not disappointed. I only feel "Wow, I am so naive."

Mybaby

这几点比较起来，打屁股还是稍好点哎！那些人在讨论怎样打孩子能不在孩子身上留下於痕，那也就是他们也在想怎样能较轻的打孩子啊，呵呵，打孩子和虐待孩子确实还是有区别的，我们老家的人几乎没有不打孩子的，但 ...
爱无言 发表于 2010-7-1 14:18

"那也就是他们也在想怎样能较轻的打孩子啊" Wrong. They are searching a way that is really painful but nothing left. Anybody here tried bamboo or not. If you tried, tell me how it feels?

Mybaby

From above we can see so called advanced is only exterior, part of them are far behind us on kids raising and self accomplishment.
小和和妈 发表于 2010-7-1 02:11

For me it is hard to tell which way is better. Theirs or us.

Their kids are more playful, more physical active, more self centered, have more street smart than Chinese kids. Our kids have good sides too. Don't you think so?

US appear to be  "richer" than us. Richer side can take advantage of poorer side. Richer side can win admiration easier. Try to imagine. US is not the big brother now. China is. The people all over the world may admire ours at that time.